Here’s a few more resources.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/01/08/donald-trump-may-win-this-years-word-of-the-year/?noredirect=on
Here’s a few more resources. I hope you decide to prioritize understanding and connecting with people over being intentionally obtuse about an arbitrary rule that no one follows in conversational English, anyway. When you refuse to use the correct words for a person, you are alienating yourself from them and the ability to learn from them. You can do better.
http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/language-blog/87915039-132.html