I think you're completely right!

I think you're completely right! And yes, I believe that often, it would be even more impactful for the autistic or trans kid to get to spend some time with an adult who is like themselves, than it is for the (non trans, non autistic) parent to do so. it's funny, I actually end up understanding my own transness and neurodiversity better myself when I interact with people who either knew about their neurotype/transness at a younger age than I did, or who had really pronounced, "severe" dysphoria or sensory issues or etc that they never, ever were able to mask. As someone who faked being cis and neurotypical for years, in many ways I lack insight into my own condition... but I can imagine how having a respectful, mentor like relationship with a trans or autistic kid could benefit both of us (and help level the playing field with a parent who might otherwise underestimate what their kid is going through).