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max's avatar

this is beautifully put! transmisandry as a concept has never made much sense to me, and this so effectively and cleanly breaks down why. i think there are interesting conversations to be had about the demonization of certain types of masculinity (Black masculinity, butch masculinity, TERF beliefs in femininity being pure, etc), but that doesn't equate to a structural presence of misandry

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Themma Goldman's avatar

YUP! My partner transitioned in the middle of a job hunt and suddenly everyone was calling him back and trying to hire him. Same exact resume, but he’d been out of work even longer.

Not to mention even the shift from being butch/masc in any way can also be huge. Men get mad if you’re not fuckable, and also people’s general annoyance at gender transition. I’m a hs teacher and dress masc, and I noticed that people would basically treat that as me being immature and refusing to grow up/refusing to be professional. When you’re (read as) a female teacher, there’s this expectation that your teacher persona should be Mary Poppins or Mrs. Trunchbull, and you can’t have chill dad energy in the way the male teachers can without being read as lazy or spacey or a pushover. And then those same schools/teachers/admins have the gall to act like they’re so cool with queer folks, when it’s so obvious that they’re only okay with the most heteronormative ones.

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