Video version: One does not simply "find a Dom."

Hello everyone! Here is the video version of my latest essay, One does not simply “find a Dom”! Here I read the piece aloud, describe all images and links, and talk live with the Twitch chat about a variety of topics related to kinky scene negotiation, building community with your fellow freaks, searching for partners IRL and on the apps, and even some really juicy tangents about how society’s sexual taboos connect back to productivity culture and systemic ableism.

LOTS of great stuff discussed in this piece — huge thanks to everybody active in the chat for sharing their own experiences. If you’d like to join during the livestream yourself to chat or follow along in real time, you can follow me on Twitch. Archives of all videos are on my Youtube.