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Kleo Brix's avatar

I've heard a fair few people talk about that movie, praising it, but knowing myself it's not something I can deal with watching.

One funny thing I experienced myself, and I know others have as well, is realizing just how much dysphoria you were dealing with once you've been transitioning a while. Before it was an all-pervasive miasma of indescribable feelings. Transitioning made it clear that the before times was not a neutral period. I'd been led to believe that dysphoria consisted of very concrete things, like anatomy, but the mental aspects are just as much a part of it. Being numbed by the constant presence of unquantifiable ~wrongness~ makes that hard to realized. (Very possibly exacerbated by a society that was extremely intolerant of existing outside a very narrowly circumscribed gender role.) Until I took the plunge that is, and was like "holy fuck". The miasma lifted. The internal signals of wrongness quietened. It sure as fuck didn't solve all my problems, but I'd be in a hell of a lot worse situation if I hadn't. Sadly the only way to find out yourself is to take the plunge so you don't die wondering.

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Chelsey Flood's avatar

Thanks Devon, I loved reading this. I don't identify as trans but always casually wanted to be a boy until my early 20s (in the 00s) and have had many interpretations of my gender dysphoria or desire to be male or desperation to be neutral/escape misogyny (inc my own) over the years. I also related the way you couldnt say why it feels better after knowing you are trans to my knowing (finally) I'm autistic. Nothing really improved but the self knowledge changed everything.

Thanks for your writing, I get a lot from reading your work.

Chelsey

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