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Having worked with non verbal people for a long time, and witnessing interactions between support staff and these people a lot of this can come down to the support person wanting to feel special by claiming to have some unique bond with the individual.

It’s true that you can develop a strong working relationship with someone over time that means you understand their subtle communication cues, but nothing should ever been assumed as true and correct unless the person has emphatically confirmed it.

AAC can be great, but still relies on the support person being open to actually receiving what has been said and accepting it if it goes against their own beliefs/preferences. This is especially true if it’s about anything sexuality, or basically anything that challenges how we think disabled people should act. Devon I’ve told you some stories around this…

I haven’t listened to the podcast. But it doesn’t surprise me that people claim to have telepathic bonds with disabled people. That implies a certain level of importance and is a control issue.

There’s a term in disability services here “client capture”. Outdated terminology but basically implies that a staff member has formed a non working relationship with the disabled person which prevents them from experiencing freedom and autonomy. That’s what all of this reeks of…

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I also think people are mixing up “telepathy” with understanding each other. Just like any human beings you can bond with someone and get to the point where you know what a look means, share inside jokes with a glance, know what the other person is likely thinking in response to something etc etc etc

This is about Rapport. Not mind reading. We are all capable of this. Including disabled people. Some of the sharpest people I’ve met can’t speak but one look tells me they’ve absolutely understood the situation, and can tell what I think about it. It’s often an insightful social commentary they’ve picked up on. But we’re not using telepathy to communicate, just regular human interactions and relationships.

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